“He has no enemy, you say; my friend your boast is poor. He who hath mingled in the fray of duty that the brave endure must have made foes. If he has none, small is the work that he has done.”
– Alexander Anton von Auersperg

When we were first launching Cyan, one of the things we discussed constantly was how we should judge our work. By financial success? By popular response? By critical reviews?

And, in those discussions, we all unanimously agreed that, at least on the reviews front, we’d be wildly happier with films that polarize critics – films that get some really great reviews and some really bad reviews – than with ones that garner a widespread ‘meh’ for their inoffensive mediocrity.

With I Love Your Work, we pretty much got what we wished for. The reviews coming out of Toronto, and in the international release of the film, have been wildly split, with reviewers either loving or hating the film, and with very little in between.

At first, glad as we were to have made something that garnered a strong response, bolstered by the enthusiasm of the positive pieces, at some level, those bad reviews really hurt.

But, with a bit of time, we started to feel okay about them. And then, with more time, better than okay. We started to relish the bad as much as the good. Kurt Vonnegut wrote that “a creative act is not considered: it’s instinctual. It is to be responded to, reacted against.” Those strong reactions, the good and the bad, were the best positive feedback we could get. In making a film, we’re putting a collaborative creative effort out into the world. People responding to it, reacting against it, means that we’re doing at least something right.

But if it only took me a few months to become zen to criticism at work, I must admit it’s taken me much longer to apply that thinking in the rest of my life. I don’t mean at the small, day-to-day level, where I’ve long appreciated people pointing out how I could do things better. Rather, I mean it at the level of me as a whole.

A few times a month, someone emails in, or posts about me on their (or in the comments of someone else’s) site, to say that I’m a 100%, total douche-bag. And, irrational as it may be, their missives initially really piss me off.

In the past, I’ve let them piss me off for a surprisingly long time. A really cutting one could ruin my day. But, increasingly, like with bad film reviews, after the initial shock wears off, I’ve started to revel in them. It’s not just with Cyan’s films, but with my life as a whole, that I’m shooting for far past inoffensive mediocrity. And since the varied group of friends I regularly see, by definition, are mainly a source of ‘good reviews’, it’s the occasional ‘bad review’ that confirms I’m pushing the envelope just enough.

Tellingly, I almost never receive hate mail from people I’ve actually wronged. Instead, I get it from people who seem deeply offended by the fact that I’m trying, day by day, to piece together the life I really want to be living.

Hatred, as George Bernard Shaw pointed out, is the coward’s revenge for being intimidated. Bring it on.